Time to evaluate your patience…for marriage

Today’s post is brought to you by one of my very own best friends ever! As I read this, the virtue of patience came to mind. I cannot say I have not experience this because I have and much to my surprise I am very content with my husband. Of course it helps to know that he is handsome and that I still have the “hots” for him. ūüôā He is amazingly wonder and to that I am grateful! So to those in this¬†dilemma, KEEP hope and get to know yourself very well first, be the person you would want to marry. All these things will help but don’t take my word for it…see and learn from your friends that are married or ask your parents or any couple that is married that you know. Take their words or advice and put it to good use. Happy hunting…


for most of us, being single will be more of a phase than a final destination. this is the best place to practice the art of contentment. someday, i’m sure most of us will fall in love and get married. but the thing is, love will always be tested. someone more handsome, more charming, richer, funnier, sweeter would come along. if you have not practiced the art of contentment as a single person, chances are you would be tempted to want that and not cherish your chosen one. practicing the Art of Contentment as a single person means that you take what life gives you, good or bad, you’re willing to see it through. it means, you don’t walk away every time things get tough because it builds in you patience, perseverance, understanding and a hundred different virtue that people in a hurry will never have. being single means you would find how it feels to be alone thus, allowing you to cherish every moment you spend with your chosen one. the Art of Contentment means you wouldn’t mind if life had to make you wait for so long to find the love of your life, because you know that the waiting would only make the finding much sweeter.¬†

A TIME TO KNOW YOURSELF BETTER. Being single is a time of your life when you get to know yourself better. you can pursue different interests and passions without having to ask another person’s approval. it is a phase when you can keep focus on other things, discover your potentials and talents, and see yourself become more that what you expect to be.

ALLOW YOURSELF TO SURPRISE YOU. Stop wasting your precious energy trying to figure out why you’re still romantically unttached. it’s all in the mind. take the time to go see your friends, spend time with your family, do charity work and you will realize that you are not, never for a moment, alone. try to get to know yourself first before you try to get to know other people. to be truly loved means to be known and accepted for who you are. how do you expect other people to know you and to love you, when you don’t know who and what you really are?

A CHOICE BETWEEN GOOD AND BEST. Sometimes the dilemmas we face are not between what is absolutely bad and absolutely good. Sometimes, it’s between good and best. treat this stage of your life as a phase to evaluate who is good for you and who is best for you. sometimes you won’t hear music, or feel magic to know who’s best for you. the heart just knows and it doesn’t need any romantically charged scenario to decide on the matter. trust in your heart, and trust that time will eventually lead you to, not to the perfect partner, but to the most suitable partner for you. being single means our hearts have yet to choose the best one for us.

ALMOST NON-COMMITTAL. Jane Austen once wrote, that it is a truth universally acknowledged that a single man (or in our times a woman), in possession of a good fortune is in search of a spouse (just to be politically correct). well, that was what the old school wanted us to believe in. married life is a path most of us would take, however, it is not the only path there is. relieve yourself of the pressure and stop making every single straight guy friend a prospect. you have no business “entrapping” them and asking (which is more like “putting a gun in the head”) them their exclusive attention, if you’re not ready for commitment yourself. sometimes, when you spend too much time trying to find a boyfriend, you normally end up marrying the first loser who comes to your door. take your time, the world will wait. being married doesn’t guarantee anything at all. sometimes, it only brings two miserable people together only to make their life even more miserable. without the right intention, the emotional maturity, financial security and of course, unwavering love, you’re better off unattached.

LIVING LIFE. Don’t put your life on hold for Mr./Ms. Right but don’t let it waste away with Mr./Ms. Wrong. Life is about things that you do and happen everyday. it’s not about the things that could have happened but never did, or things that you think would happen in the future. live life now. live it to the fullest and stop beating yourself up, trying to be perfect on a Saturday night date. allow life to surprise you with its most wonderful blessing.


Our little Angel of joy!

Our little bundle of joy

Alexia Karina Chavira
Born May 5th, 2012 at 4:57am
7 lbs 9oz and 20.5 in

I know I’m a few days behind on announcing Alexia’s birth but better late than never. ūüôā More photos to come so stand watch for some cuteness! Story of how it happened, in the works…stay tuned!

Baby’s photogenic

Many of you have asked to see pictures of our little bundle of joy. So here are some ultrasound photos that I really liked. Our doctor did tell us that she wants us to take one more ultrasound to make sure everything is still good and that is she in the right place. Enjoy the photos and feel free to comment if you like.

This is my little peanut, isn't she cute! This is also the 1st visit for an ultrasound. It was a long night at the ER but everything is fine.


Little girl was active at the 2nd ultrasound visit and it was hard for the nurse to take pictures but this one was pretty funny. She was waving hi to us, she even curled her little hand as she was waving. Made me cry and little.


I'm a believer, I'm having a baby!!!!



By Roxy Posted in Love

R.I.P. to my 1st Father figure, Richard Sowby


Richard Sowby, what a man. He was a man of few but many words when he spoke. He was a hard worked, a loving Husband, a loving Father, and a well created man. Words cannot express how I feel about his passing right now but I know he is in a better place. This man was like a father to my sister and I, now that he is gone I pray that Sis Sowby will be ok knowing that Bro Sowby has gone home to be with his parents and Heavenly Father.

In the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints we are taught about a plan that is call The Plan of Salvation. If it wasn’t for this plan and my understanding and testimony of it I would be sobbing and furious. This plan explains what it means for those who have past on and for those that are living. It talks about the before life (the Pre-existence), how we believe that it was our choice to come to this earth life and live a well enough life to one day return to the presence of our Heavenly Father. There is so much I can tell you about this wonderful plan right now but I’m not in the mood to feel preachy, mainly because I am sick.

My heart and my love goes out to the Sowby family. May they know that they are not along and feel comforted that God still loves them. This post does no justice to his life but I wanted to share it anyways because he is a wonderful man among kings. The above link is a link to his funeral service tomorrow, wish I could be there. I love you Sis Sowby!

4 Bf’s of life

I saw this on my Fb and it really is true(mostly). Let’s try to be better shall we…

Four (4) Boyfriends
Once upon a time there was this girl who had four boyfriends.

She loved the 4th boyfriend the most and adored him with rich robes and treated him to the finest of delicacies. She gave him nothing but the best.

She also loved the 3rd boyfriend very much and was always showing him off to neighboring kingdoms. However, she feared that one day he would leave her for another.

She also loved her 2nd boyfriend. He was her confidant and was always kind, considerate and patient with her. Whenever this girl faced a problem, she could confide in him, and he would help her get through the difficult times.

The girls 1st boyfriend was a very loyal partner and had made great contributions in maintaining her wealth and kingdom. However, she did not love the first boyfriend. Although he loved her deeply, she hardly took notice of him!

One day, the girl fell ill and she knew her time was short. She thought of her luxurious life and wondered, I now have four boyfriends with me, but when I die, I’ll be all alone.”

Thus, she asked the 4th boyfriend, “I loved you the most, endowed you with the finest clothing and showered great care over you. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?”

“No way!”, replied the 4 th boyfriend, and he walked away without another word.

His answer cut like a sharp knife right into her heart.

The sad girl then asked the 3rd boyfriend, “I loved you all my life. Now that I’m dying, will you follow me and keep me company?”

“No!”, replied the 3rd boyfriend. “Life is too good! When you die, I’m going to marry someone else!”

Her heart sank and turned cold.

She then asked the 2nd boyfriend, “I have always turned to you for help and you’ve always been there for me.

When I die, will you follow me and keep me company?”

“I’m sorry, I can’t help you out this time!”, replied the 2nd boyfriend. “At the very most, I can only walk with you to your grave.”

His answer struck her like a bolt of lightning, and the girl was devastated.

Then a voice called out: “I’ll go with you. I’ll follow you no matter where you go.”

The girl looked up, and there was her first boyfriend. He was very skinny as he suffered from malnutrition and neglect.

Greatly grieved, the girl said, “I should have taken much better care of you when I had the chance!”

In truth, you have 4 boyfriend s in your lives:

Your 4th boyfriend is your body. No matter how much time and effort you lavish in making it look good, it will leave you when you die.

Your 3rd boyfriend is your possessions, status and wealth.When you die, it will all go ! to others.

Your 2nd boyfriend is your family and friends. No matter how much they have been there for you, the furthest they can stay by you is up to the grave.

And your 1st boyfriend is your Soul. Often neglected in pursuit of wealth, power and pleasures of the world.

However, your Soul is the only thing that will follow you where ever you go. Cultivate, strengthen and cherish it now, for it is the only part of you that will follow you to the throne of God and continue with you throughout Eternity.

Thought for the day: Remember, when the world pushes you to your knees, you’re in the perfect position to pray.

Pass this on to someone you care about – I just did.

Being happy doesn’t mean everything’s perfect. It means you’ve decided to see beyond the imperfections.

My Valentine’s Boyfriend

Miguel and Me!


This is a picture of Miguel and me at the Valentine’s Date Dance for the Institute. Isn’t he dreamy?! The following is a card he gave me on Valentine’s Day. To say the least, I am in love!

Nuestro Amor Es Una Bendicion

No sabes como Le pedi a Dios que me enviara a alguien especial…

Alguien a quien amar con todo el corazon,

Alguien que llenara mis dias de alegria…

Y El me bendijo con tu amor.

Por eso no me canso de dar gracias por todo lo que hemos compartido…

Y todo lo que esta por venir.

Te amo.

Feliz Dia de San Valentin



By Roxy Posted in Love

A Song for Valentine’s Day

I hope everyone is enjoying Valentine’s Day as much as I am. This Cat came in time into my life and has made me the happiest I have ever been in a long time. If you are single or not regardless Ihope you know that you are loved by your family, friends, and dear ones.

Loves too all!


During the Christmas Holiday a bunch of us from work who are my really cool friends went and saw “Avatar” at the IMAX¬†theater¬†in 3D. Let me just saw that it was flippin’ awesome! I loved it and I would see it again. Caution: If you read this and haven’t seen Avatar, its not my fault…I will be talking about it.

Ok so during the movie the main character had to gain the trust of the village people and be one of them. As he learned their ways he experienced many things, ie: the meaning of love, care for people he never had before, learned how to conquer his fear of a strange new place or I should probably say that he explored a whole new world. Fast forward…at the end of his training/graduation there was a ceremony where he became one of them…joined a family he never had before. But not just any family it was a whole new kind of¬†definition…at least the way I¬†interpret¬†the movie it was to me. They brought him the the center of the clan and as the Father and the Mother¬†accepted¬†him they put their hand on his shoulder and the rest of the clan followed suit. As the camera¬†paned¬†out you could see him in the very dead center of everyone and the whole entire clan had their arm on the person in front of them which ultimately lead to the center. Quite an amazing ceremony…he got a bigger reward than he ever expected. A family much more than he ever had.

I’m not going to lie, when I saw this I cried and it was so my wish to have a family just like that. To be in the center of a circle where everyone accepts you for who you were and called you as his/her brother or sister is a feeling that I¬†cherish the most in my heart above all…family comes first.¬†Since my direct family is so messed up, I make my own family. Thankfully thought I still have my direct sister whom I love dearly. And over the years my family has increased so much right before my very own eyes sometimes I have a hard time seeing that due to my¬†childhood. But I’ve got some news for you…I’ve got a bigger family now than when I started here on earth at birth and quite frankly I couldn’t have asked for a better family!

Now here’s my dream:

About two nights ago I was thinking about the future and¬†settling¬†down. Can you believe it me, a party animal settle down…if you ask me that’s a bit fishy! jk, no really I’m serious about it. Any who that night I dreamed about my husband and my children. It was such an amazing dream I love it so much I wished it was real. It was a simple dream, nothing fancy…just something sweet for the future to look forward to.

It took place in my back yard of my big house. (So far so good) My husband (to be) was playing with my (future) son throwing around the football. I was with my beautiful (future 3) girls on the swings, playing and laughing and smiling. As I looked around there was a picnic blanket with food not to far away and I could just feel the love. The love of my very own family that I created with my gorgeous handsome husband. The love that I felt from each of them was extraordinary! I was a mom to 4 kids and a wife to a husband who adore me, it felt good.

I woke up and I smiled. That’s basically set my entire day. I wasn’t sad or¬†disappointed¬†when I woke up to nothing…I had hope and love and compassion, and DESIRE that I will do what it takes to make that happen. I want that and I’ve considered to settle down and get serious about life but still have fun in a way where I can be that fun mom and amazing wife to my future family.

Am I ready to be a mom or a wife? I don’t know but I do know that there is only one way to find out…let’s go fishing!

A little boy named Aidan

A couple of weeks ago as we were coming back from a¬†reception¬†I offered to hold Aidan while Pmac got the car seat back into his car for Aidan. We parked my car and I went to grab Aidan…poor little guy even tho he was sleeping I still told him that I was going to hold him so his dad can move the car seat over. Aidan put no fuss, and let me freely hold him for the time being. As I held Aidan he¬†laid¬†is head on my shoulder and put his arms around my neck to hold on.

Next thing I know I am completely speechless! This cute little boy has given me the greatest hope and desire that deep down inside my heart has been in slumber for many years. The feelings I felt while holding Aidan were so strong that it hit home FAST! Never have I ever felt this way about a child…such love, such happiness, such hope! I’ve never felt like a mother before or ever gotten close enough to the role until that night. A great sense of peace came over me and I kid you not I would have loved just to hold Aidan a little while longer just to be able to keep feeling that motherly sensation. Not sure if that’s the right word for it but you get my point. I won’t lie my heart broke a little when Pmac took him and put him in his car, but at least I got to experience something I never thought would be possible in my heart. Just for that minute and half I felt so much love for Aidan and for once my heart was completely full…full of love and all the right emotions a normal person should feel on a daily basis. ¬†Aidan, I owe you buddy.

You know no matter how many times I re-read this words just cannot capture the emotions I felt…its just not¬†expressible. This gives no justice to Aidan or myself due to the fact that I just cannot express well enough how it felt that night. I want it back, I want those feelings back…yet I have to wait because I know its not on my time but on the Lord’s time. He will know when I am ready and I will freak out as usual but I do hope I don’t have to wait too long. Until then I will hold on to these feelings tight and pray that I don’t forget how it felt to almost be a mother…or the role of a mother.