Time to evaluate your patience…for marriage

Today’s post is brought to you by one of my very own best friends ever! As I read this, the virtue of patience came to mind. I cannot say I have not experience this because I have and much to my surprise I am very content with my husband. Of course it helps to know that he is handsome and that I still have the “hots” for him. 🙂 He is amazingly wonder and to that I am grateful! So to those in this dilemma, KEEP hope and get to know yourself very well first, be the person you would want to marry. All these things will help but don’t take my word for it…see and learn from your friends that are married or ask your parents or any couple that is married that you know. Take their words or advice and put it to good use. Happy hunting…

THE ART OF CONTENTMENT

for most of us, being single will be more of a phase than a final destination. this is the best place to practice the art of contentment. someday, i’m sure most of us will fall in love and get married. but the thing is, love will always be tested. someone more handsome, more charming, richer, funnier, sweeter would come along. if you have not practiced the art of contentment as a single person, chances are you would be tempted to want that and not cherish your chosen one. practicing the Art of Contentment as a single person means that you take what life gives you, good or bad, you’re willing to see it through. it means, you don’t walk away every time things get tough because it builds in you patience, perseverance, understanding and a hundred different virtue that people in a hurry will never have. being single means you would find how it feels to be alone thus, allowing you to cherish every moment you spend with your chosen one. the Art of Contentment means you wouldn’t mind if life had to make you wait for so long to find the love of your life, because you know that the waiting would only make the finding much sweeter. 

A TIME TO KNOW YOURSELF BETTER. Being single is a time of your life when you get to know yourself better. you can pursue different interests and passions without having to ask another person’s approval. it is a phase when you can keep focus on other things, discover your potentials and talents, and see yourself become more that what you expect to be.

ALLOW YOURSELF TO SURPRISE YOU. Stop wasting your precious energy trying to figure out why you’re still romantically unttached. it’s all in the mind. take the time to go see your friends, spend time with your family, do charity work and you will realize that you are not, never for a moment, alone. try to get to know yourself first before you try to get to know other people. to be truly loved means to be known and accepted for who you are. how do you expect other people to know you and to love you, when you don’t know who and what you really are?

A CHOICE BETWEEN GOOD AND BEST. Sometimes the dilemmas we face are not between what is absolutely bad and absolutely good. Sometimes, it’s between good and best. treat this stage of your life as a phase to evaluate who is good for you and who is best for you. sometimes you won’t hear music, or feel magic to know who’s best for you. the heart just knows and it doesn’t need any romantically charged scenario to decide on the matter. trust in your heart, and trust that time will eventually lead you to, not to the perfect partner, but to the most suitable partner for you. being single means our hearts have yet to choose the best one for us.

ALMOST NON-COMMITTAL. Jane Austen once wrote, that it is a truth universally acknowledged that a single man (or in our times a woman), in possession of a good fortune is in search of a spouse (just to be politically correct). well, that was what the old school wanted us to believe in. married life is a path most of us would take, however, it is not the only path there is. relieve yourself of the pressure and stop making every single straight guy friend a prospect. you have no business “entrapping” them and asking (which is more like “putting a gun in the head”) them their exclusive attention, if you’re not ready for commitment yourself. sometimes, when you spend too much time trying to find a boyfriend, you normally end up marrying the first loser who comes to your door. take your time, the world will wait. being married doesn’t guarantee anything at all. sometimes, it only brings two miserable people together only to make their life even more miserable. without the right intention, the emotional maturity, financial security and of course, unwavering love, you’re better off unattached.

LIVING LIFE. Don’t put your life on hold for Mr./Ms. Right but don’t let it waste away with Mr./Ms. Wrong. Life is about things that you do and happen everyday. it’s not about the things that could have happened but never did, or things that you think would happen in the future. live life now. live it to the fullest and stop beating yourself up, trying to be perfect on a Saturday night date. allow life to surprise you with its most wonderful blessing.

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I am getting married!!!

Dear friends and folk of all creatures,

The time has come for a new and better chapter in my life. I wish to share my special day with you. It does not matter if we haven’t talked in years, or lost communication, or if Egypt got in the way of our friendship…if you would like to attend we are more than happy to have you be there for us. We Latinos know how to throw a party so if your looking for a fun dancing night come on over to our reception for some good clean, salsa jazzy fun! Don’t forget your dancing shoes! The following is a message I posted on our event on Fb. So if you don’t have Fb its ok because here it is again just for you! We love friends and hope all is well with you!

Come join us for a fun night at our reception where we will have a ring ceremony, a light dinner (first come first serve), and a Latin Dance! Yes we will play English music a little for those who would want something to dance to. The reception will be held in Heber City Stake Center at the following address:
150 N 200 W
HEBER CITY, UTAH 84032

There will be an Open house in California, for those who can’t make it to the Reception in Utah. Details to come soon on the California Open House.

WE NEED YOUR ADDRESSES PLEASE!!! Click on the following link below to submit your names and addresses. We wish all of you can come so please don’t forget to click on the link below so we can send you an invitation.

http://www.myinvitationlist.net/Submit.php?aid=136

If you have any questions please feel free to contact us via Facebook, or by phone. We take text, emails, cookies, brownies, and especially Cheesecake!

Roxy Quintanilla
801.205.5862
roxmana@gmail.com

Please RSVP asap to let us know which one you will be attending, either the Utah Reception and/or California Open House! As you RSVP just write a note which one you will attend. Thank you!

Babysitting

After work when I got home on Friday, I was looking for any excuse just to get out of my crazy house. Anything at all! Babies popped into my head and gave me an idea. I called my good friend and offered to babysit if they wanted to go on a date. I’ve heard that once your married with kids its hard to have “husband and wife time” so knowing that they are newlyweds I was hoping they would take me up on my offer. THEY DID! I always love hanging out with little Laneah, she is the most adorable little girl I’ve ever met! I want to make a baby as cute as she is…note: future husband, I hope your listening.

World's cutest little girl

Any who, after the White’s left that’s when the fun started. Laneah and I ran all over the living room chasing one another, played games, watched TV together, then little by little she started getting fussy. I guess babies do that when they are tired or sleepy or something. So I watched her and followed her to make sure she didn’t fall or anything. I picked her up as she requested and just cradled her in my arms. I would stop and she would fuss again…so I continued. Even in their sleep they know light from darkness…example: While holding her I would walk from the living room to her bedroom where it was dark and she would wake up so fast and fuss all over again. Back to the living room we went. I did this for a while until she was absolutely out. We made it to her bed and I didn’t know how to lay her down without waking her up so I slowly fell on the bed with her on top of my chest. She noticed, she fussed for a second or two but gave up and was quiet again. I rub her back in hopes that she would keep asleep and I can squeeze out. No good. The White’s came home and Hermana found us in Laneah’s room. All I said was “I’m stuck” and then Laneah woke up to her mom kneeling down beside us. I was so close to having her asleep for sure. Laneah laughed and cried so I gave her to her mama and then her dad came to put her to sleep…the loud cries started and I left the room! My job was done! It was a great babysitting night, lets do it again!

Things that really matter…

…to me. This year for the month of November I was able to ponder just about every single day what I am thankful for or for whom. Since I’ve been home from my mission I’ve had nothing but countless blessings pour upon me…then after a while of free gifts(blessings) I learned that I needed to show Heavenly Father my gratitude…and so I am still trying too. I’ve had a new goal in these last couple of months to try and be positive about anything and everything. If I couldn’t then I would at least try to laugh it off, well let me tell you its been difficult but I haven’t given up yet. Since doing this I’ve felt completely different and better which leads me to been very grateful to those who have stuck by me and to those who wanted to hit me upside my head and pretend I didn’t exists to them. i’m stubborn, deal with it. Well this month I’ve made a real effort to see all the little things of life that bring joy to my heart, I found A LOT!  The following are things and people I am much thankful for…

  1. The Gospel of Jesus Christ
  2. All the hard life’s lessons
  3. My dear family and friends (you know who you are)
  4. My little nieces and nephews (Aidan, Laneah, Belle, Emma, Claire, and the brand new addition baby Fox)
  5. My roommate’s snort when she laughs really hard, truly brings a huge smile to my face…too bad she doesn’t do it more often anymore
  6. My car that is still working
  7. Love notes from my friends in my current ward
  8. My bishopric and their wives
  9. A healthy body
  10. Hugs and kisses!!! My favorite
  11. The guidance of great examples and leaders
  12. Friends who love me even with all my faults-I have many, shh!
  13. My job and those select few (at work)who make me smile and laugh
  14. My mission comps, who I am still in contact with-they rock my socks off!
  15. FOOD!
  16. Faith, Endurance, Hope, Desire, Love, and Patience
  17. Dreams
  18. The emotional team support I have from certain people
  19. My long hair and brown sugar skin, lol
  20. Movies-they always seem to get me thinking
  21. Books-religious or worldly
  22. Photographs of people I love and care about
  23. Many fun adventures of the past 25 years and counting…
  24. My scriptures that I am able to read in my native tongue (Spanish) even though I understand a whole lot better in English 🙂
  25. My patriarchal blessing which is my little preview of what may come if I chose to be
  26. To live in a well protective “Bubble” college town
  27. The many ways to network and stay in contact with my people (yes I have my own people, called my family and friends-gotcha!) 🙂
  28. The ability to play sports and get dirty when playing outside
  29. Babies, kids, children-that I now do love to hold, play games with, and babysit
  30. Travel and see old friends and family
  31. Dogs and cats
  32. All of my coworkers from this state of Utah whom have taught me many lessons
  33. Birthday hugs-big ones that left some bruises afterward-no biggy. Thank you Ben you made my birthday this year a million times better than ever before
  34. Cheesecake! Oh how much I love it, way better than chocolate
  35. The ability to do a childhood goal/dream…martial arts!
  36. To have been able to accomplish a lot in this past decade…I might not remember what I did but I’m sure people will remind me here and there
  37. Sun, Moon, Stars-how they always light the way in dark places
  38. All the seasons of the year-its a work of art that God has created for us
  39. The ability to get up (trials, errors, etc) when I fall and try again
  40. And finally the great Atonement of Jesus Christ! Because of his unselfish love, care, example, and sacrifice I am able to enjoy all of these things and follow in his foot steps and help others.

Yes, there is much, much more I am grateful for but in reality my list will never end…so I hope you said a silent prayer this past Thanksgiving day and thanked your Creator, Father, God who has giving you everything in life and only ask little of us. To be Christlike, (something I am still working on too) to comfort those who stand in need of comfort, fellowship, give hugs and kisses, talk with all your friends, love your parents(no matter how many you have) witness and testify of  the truth, for the truth and only by the truth will you be free. Thank you to all who have support me this year and have never given up on me. Love you all!

hmmm…

Tonight I heard somethings at home that I think were meant for me to hear. Its amazing how different people even friends of friends or stranges can say something that is only meant for your ears only. Even if it was in a general conversation, those words were spoken directly without the messanger knowing it. Thank you to those that spoke words tonight it was enlighting. I assume there will be many more words to come and many more visit to get to know one another. There were actually two quotes that got my attension tonight but I forgot to write down the second one. “I only love life because it’s difficult”-PrincEarly. If life was easy, where would the learning process be? Music is a great way to uplift people and I look forward to Monday’s adventure…